Getting the housework done can be time-consuming and difficult, and getting your partner on board with doing their share the source of deep conflict.
Here are Blaelock’s tips for getting your partner on board:
- Pick your moments
:There are some times when you’re more likely to have a productive conversation than others. Pick a time when neither of you are tense or stressed and are more likely to have a conversation that’s closer to the rational end of the spectrum.
- Be aware: When you’re already doing something (e.g., stacking the dishwasher), there’s no space or incentive for your partner to do it. Step back a little to give them room to step up.
- Who’s juggling what: Most of us juggle a variety of different paid and unpaid tasks each day, but we rarely ask for help when we feel overwhelmed. Try telling your partner you’ve got a lot on and asking them to complete specific tasks to help you.
- Lower your standards: Often we’re our own worst enemies, expecting (e.g.) the dishwasher to be loaded a certain way, rather than focusing on the fact that the dishes are in there. Yet none of us like being told what to do – instruction quite quickly becomes nagging, so chill out a bit.
- Acknowledge what they do: When the chores get done, thank them, regardless of whether they’re allocated tasks or gifts. None of us likes to be taken for granted, and it works for pets.
Alexandria’s tips for getting your partner on board will help you get more done in less time.
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